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Above: Nakia, age 23, studying Psychology and English at Queens College

 

 

Where do you attend college and what are you studying?

Nikia: I go to Queens College and major in Psychology and have a minor in English.

 

Tell us about the day you moved into the dorms!

Nikia: The day I moved into the dorms was such a revolutionary feeling to have both my support systems helping me. They were so proud which helped to ease some of my anxiety. I met the housemates and they were ok. For the first few days I mainly stayed to myself.

 

Tell us about some of the classes you took this year! Which classes did you enjoy the most, and why? What was the most creative and interest assignment you had to complete?

Nikia: This year I have taken Art, and many English and Psychology courses. I believe the most interesting course I have had was English: Genre course. I learned about something I had never heard about, elegies. It was a great experience to attend a course where the professor kept the class alive.

 

We know college is hard! What was the most challenging part of living in the dorms and going to school?

Nikia: The most challenging part of doing both was the transition. As a child in foster care all of my life, I have had to move constantly. My last home has been my last home for over 7 years, so the anxiety of having to face a new element did not help me at first. Once you get your feet planted though, you learn how to maneuver in your everyday life of dorming and going to school.

 

What extracurricular events did you participate in?

Nikia: I attended a few workshops throughout the year. I especially enjoyed meeting a fellow Latino poet. His words made everyone mesmerized and it was an overall great experience.

 

How did your Resident Advisors and tutors help you navigate dorm living and college classes?

Nikia: My R.A’s helped make every obstacle a breeze. At times when I felt like I was out of place, my R.A would reassure me that although I was there by choice, I still was capable of great things and that I shouldn’t give up. Also, the R.A’s helped each other; if one was not available, regardless if that R.A was assigned to me, then I would still have someone to assist me in whatever I needed.

 

Tell us about your current (or previous or upcoming) jobs or internships—and what you hope to gain.

Nikia: I will be working as a camp counselor during the summer for Fresh Air Fund. I hope to gain the respect and enlightening experience that I am sure my R.A this semester, has received. As my R.A has been a model of patience, understanding, and respect, I hope to spread that on.

 

Click here to learn more about The New York Foundling’s efforts and role in the CUNY/ACS Fostering College Success Initiative.

 

 

Read the essays of other students by clicking their photos below:

 

 

Marcus College Dorm Student Blog    Blog Photo Monica Essay   Ericka Blog Post   Copy of Jasmine Blog Post

Ohilda Holguin didn’t expect to become a foster mom to her niece, Elizabeth. In fact, in 2013, Ohilda was ready to move to across the country. She had already signed a lease in Tacoma, Washington and moved a majority of her things.

 

But when she received a call saying her newborn niece needed a foster home, Ohilda welcomed Elizabeth with open arms and became a part of The Foundling family.

 

Unexpected News

 

It all started with a phone call.

 

While visiting in New York City in August, just before Ohilda’s move was finalized, her mom announced, “Congratulations, you’re an aunt!” Ohilda wasn’t expecting the news. She didn’t know her brother was expecting a child.

 

Ohilda then learned that her newborn niece, Elizabeth, needed a place to stay temporarily — maybe a couple of months. She was born positive for drugs.

 

Ohilda decided she would help. She still had her place secured in NYC, and within hours, a social worker from The Foundling was over to begin the evaluation.

 

“(They) said to me, I don’t know, the judge can still decide to give her to your brother because he’s the dad, but we’re going to recommend you,” Ohilda recalls. The judge made the call to have Elizabeth stay with Ohilda.

 

“I had a child in 15 minutes.”

 

She was officially a foster mom with The New York Founding, which is one of ACS’ largest contract agencies.

 

Becoming a Foster Mom

 

Baby Elizabeth arrived from the hospital, wearing a blue fleece outfit.

 

“I mean, she was so tiny — 6 pounds, 1 ounce,” Ohilda recalls.

 

Ohilda believes everything happened the way it was supposed to. Despite her impending move, she was in the right place in her life to be able to provide the stability and love Elizabeth needed.

 

“And my going away party became my baby shower in my house,” she laughs.

 

Now, Elizabeth is 3 years old, soon to be 4 this summer, and is still living with Ohilda. She says Elizabeth’s biological parents continue to have their struggles; Elizabeth’s mom was in and out of programs to get help for her substance abuse problems, but fell back into using not long after. A judge decided to terminate her parental rights in April 2017.

 

Ohilda is currently working to formally adopt Elizabeth.

 

“I feel blessed that God trusted me enough to take care of Elizabeth when her parents can’t and hopefully one day they can get themselves to a place where they’re OK,” she says, noting she hopes one day, when they’re healthier and have “established themselves differently in their lives,” they can have a relationship with Elizabeth.

 

The Journey Thus Far

 

Ohilda describes Elizabeth as “very bright,” “warm,” “sweet,” and “loving.”

 

Elizabeth has a sensory processing disorder and asthma, but she’s worked with her all her life to ensure she has the right support for her needs.

 

And despite some of the challenges that come with the role of parenting, like finding balance, Ohilda says The Foundling been there for her through it all. The nonprofit has provided her with so much support, from introducing her to an established network of professionals and foster parents to offering trainings and resources.

 

Ironically, Ohilda had even randomly researched foster parenting about a year prior and requested info, thinking, “maybe one day.” She tells others considering becoming foster parents — to family members’ children or to other children in the foster care system — “there’s no greater reward than being a foster parent.”

 

“It’s such a wonderful experience seeing them thrive, being there for them,” she says, adding, “What better way to give back then to impact one person’s life in such a way that it’s going to impact everything they do for the rest of their lives?”

On May 31, The Foundling welcomed about 30 foster youth to discover their passions, talk to professionals, and start planning their future careers.

 

At the annual Career Night event, held at The Foundling’s headquarters in Manhattan, teens were able to bring their resumes, get feedback, ask questions, and talk to professionals in various fields about what they do.

 

Several companies had tables at Career Night, including the FDNY, WeWork, Megpies, UPS, Spotify, CodeGreen, The Ink Well Foundation, and Greenhouse. Individuals and volunteers from Haddad Brands, Kaltura, Fortress Investment Group, Educo Consulting, Medical Link, and UBS were present as well. Myriad fields were represented thanks to professionals in the nursing, law, and journalism professions who also sat down with the teens.

 

The evening ended with raffles of game systems, accessories and gift cards.

 

Thank you to our many volunteers for helping to make this event a success for yet another year!

One of The New York Foundling’s longtime foster moms, Debbie Evans, and her foster daughter, Christina, sat down with Jack Ford and The Foundling’s CEO Bill Baccaglini to talk about how the system and organization work, as well as their experiences with foster care. READ MORE

For the last two years, Linda Robbins has been donating her time and enthusiasm to caring for children every single week at The Foundling’s Crisis Nursery, the city’s only 24/7 care center where newborns and children are able to stay with fully trained staff while parents get their health and household back in order.

 

Linda devotes herself to making the children’s temporary stay as fun and nurturing as possible, from getting creative with arts and crafts, coloring, and reading stories to pitching in with laundry, making home-cooked meals and comforting the children.

 

As the parents are receiving the help that they need—potentially due to drug or alcohol abuse, domestic abuse situations, housing crises, etc.—Linda helps provides much-needed love and individualized attention to their children. She has even gone the extra mile to give extra attention where needed, like when a toddler was struggling with a speech delay.

 

The impact that she makes on young lives is tangible. You see the joy in children’s faces when Linda walks into the room on Wednesdays.

 

In an environment such as the Crisis Nursery, volunteers like Linda are critical. Every moment that the staff spends with these children can have a huge impact — and that’s certainly true with Linda. She will do anything to ensure children staying around the clock feel comforted, safe and loved in their temporary home.

If you’re new to being a foster parent, or have already begun your foster parenting journey and are looking for resources, these books about foster care can provide some insight through stories, advice and more.

 

1. Three More Words by Ashley Rhodes-Courter

“Compelling read. Sometimes as foster parents we get overwhelmed and consider giving up – and we only foster babies/toddlers! Reading her books has really encouraged me to continue and to consider taking older children in the future.” — Lana, Amazon.com

 

2. The Foster Parenting Toolbox by Kim Phagan-Hansel

“We are getting our house ready to start emergency foster care, and this book was recommended on several sites and from other parents.” — Hope, Amazon.com

 

3. The Foster Parenting Manual: A Practical Guide to Creating a Loving, Safe and Stable Home by John DeGarmo

“Such a great book and really broke down in each chapter what to expect. I appreciated the real life experiences and stories. I feel like this has really helped me prepare to be a foster parent.” — Shannon, Amazon.com

 

4. The Garbage Bag Kids by Virginia Jeffers

“Couldn’t put it down until I finished the book. Really takes you into the home of a foster parent and all the challenges they encounter. Makes one appreciate the dedication and love they pour into these precious lives.” — Sheryl, Amazon.com

 

For more foster parent advice, check out our post 7 Pieces of Advice for Foster Parents.

 

During the month of May, we celebrate National Foster Care Month. Here in New York City, The Foundling has about 700 foster children in our care at any given time.

 

Across the country, hundreds of thousands of children are in need of temporary foster homes until they can be reunited with their parents and return to a safer, more stable home environment. To learn more about foster care and becoming a foster parent, visit The New York Foundling’s foster care page.

Above: Foster parents enjoyed a night of food, dancing and raffles.

 

Each day, The New York Foundling’s foster parents give so much of themselves to care for kids in need of loving, safe homes. So on May 18, we made sure they knew how special they are at our annual Foster Parent Appreciation Night.

 

More than 100 foster parents from all five boroughs and all three of The Foundling’s foster care programs came together for an evening of fun at Astoria Complex Catering in Queens.

 

In addition to a warm welcome, the celebration included recognition of the more than 20 foster parents who have provided 15 years of service — and four who have been foster parents for more than 20 years.

 

During dinner, Brieanna Hayes and Rosie Williams, two former foster youth with You Gotta Believe’s “Nobody Ages Out” Advocates for Youth, talked about their life experiences, the important role of foster parents, and the need for more foster parents in New York City.

 

Foster parents spent the remainder of the night entering raffles and dancing.

 

To see photos from this year’s Foster Parent Appreciation Night, visit our Facebook page.

 

During the month of May, we celebrate National Foster Care Month. Here in New York City, The Foundling has about 700 foster children in our care at any given time.

 

Across the country, hundreds of thousands of children are in need of temporary foster homes until they can be reunited with their parents and return to a safer, more stable home environment. To learn more about foster care and becoming a foster parent, visit The New York Foundling’s foster care page.

Above: Staff based out of our office in Puerto Rico.

 

The New York Foundling’s Head Start and Early Head Start programs in Puerto Rico are now able to educate even more infants, toddlers, and children thanks to recent renovations and openings.

 

Renovations at Several Locations

 

For over 30 years, The Foundling has operated Head Start and Early Head Start programs in Puerto Rico, serving low-income children and families at 26 centers in four municipalities.

 

Seeing the need to reach more children even earlier, The Foundling has been working to convert a few of its Head Start centers to Early Head Start centers, which required renovations at our Zambrana Center in Coamo, Brenas Center and Santa Ana Center in Vega Alta, and a location in Cantera. Renovations are complete at these centers, and all are now fully operational.

 

Additionally, we secured a community center in San Juan until our Alameda Center is fully revamped.

 

Through this, we have been able to maintain full Head Start and Early Head Start enrollment of 934 children, infants through age 5.

 

More Openings

 

In May 2017 we were verbally notified of the award to serve additional children in service locations contiguous to our existing service centers. The Foundling has applied for over 400 slots and expects to receive written confirmation on the number of slots and size of the award soon.

 

Follow Our Work

 

The Head Start program educates children ages 3-5, and the Early Head Start program serves infants, toddlers and pregnant women in targeted communities. The Puerto Rico staff also provides child care between 7 a.m. and 6 p.m., plus offers services to extended family members.

 

Learn more about our work and presence in Puerto Rico communities on the program page.

Cory Robbins, MSW, with The Foundling contributed to this blog post

 

The New York Foundling’s therapeutic teams are consistently working to learn new skills that can help the families and children they serve. And on May 11, 2017, one of the Kids Experiencing Young Success (KEYS) teams participated in one such activity, taking on the challenge of constructing a tower through only verbal communication.

 

KEYS, one of the many evidence-based therapeutic programs at The Foundling, provides in-home therapeutic services to families whose teens are at risk of falling out of school or being placed out-of-home due to behavioral challenges.

 

On May 11, one of the KEYS teams met for a quarterly skills training with their consultant from Pittsburgh, and as an ice breaker, they were split into two groups and given the task to make the tallest structure possible using only raw spaghetti and marshmallows. The groups had two minutes to verbally discuss their plans, and then four minutes to execute their plans and build their tower without talking.

 

The therapists were encouraged to do this activity with their families in session in order to help them strengthen their family’s teamwork and communication skills.

 

Pictured is Cory Robbins, MSW, Multisystemic Therapy Supervisor with the Bronx Team’s KEYS Program, posing with the winning tower, which the consultant said was “the best she’d ever seen.”

Staff from The Foundling’s foster care and home-finding team contributed to this post.

 

Each child who comes into a foster parent’s home will have a different history and story. Wondering how to be a good foster parent to these kids in need? Whether you’re a first-time foster parent or have been welcoming foster youth into your home for a long time, there are a few pieces of foster care advice that apply to all situations.

 

1. Make them feel welcome. Involve them in family activities, strike up conversations, smile, and always offer a hug or a listening ear.

 

2. Learn how to have an “open” home. In addition to opening your home to a new child or children, you’ll also have a lot of new people in and out of your home, including agency staff and city and state workers. In another sense, having an “open” home means being accepting of new ideas and change, which come with the fostering experience.

 

3. Create a ritual. Whether it’s a weekly trip to the park, grabbing a slice of pizza down the block, or playing a game, have something that is a consistent routine for the child in your home. This can help them adjust.

 

4. Open up about yourself. The kids in your home are in a new place and they’re also living with a new person! Tell them about yourself, like where you grew up, what you like to do for fun, why you decided to become a foster parent — anything! By sharing your story with the kids in your home, they’ll soon be ready to share their story with you! It’s important to be genuine with the children.

 

5. Have patience. Because these children are away from their biological parents and have likely experienced some trauma, children may take a while before they open up — and that’s OK. Show compassion and always let them know you’re available to talk when they want to or are ready. Also, learn to let go of the things you can’t control related to things like court proceedings and possible other bureaucratic barriers.

 

6. Know what you’re capable of. It’s OK to sometimes say “no” if you are not able to manage a specific need of a child in foster care.

 

7. Call on community. Take advantage of all of the support you have as a foster parent. Here at The Foundling, we offer our foster parents 24/7 access to our team for help. We also have support groups, annual events for foster parents, and events for foster parents to attend with their foster children.

 

During the month of May, we celebrate National Foster Care Month. Here in New York City, The Foundling has about 700 foster children in our care at any given time.

 

Across the country, hundreds of thousands of children are in need of temporary foster homes until they can be reunited with their parents and return to a safer, more stable home environment. To learn more about foster care and becoming a foster parent, visit The New York Foundling’s foster care page.

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